First off let me say that I was a student of Silas’ for about two years. The reason I am writing this is to inform the Body of the things being taught in Ekstasis Ministries, or more specifically by Silas Valentine.
Silas has strayed into error, and dare I say heresy, on certain aspects of his teachings. The first and most prominent is the idea of relationships and marriage. To be blunt, he has strayed into immorality and adultery. There have been several accusations from women that have been part of, and some that are still part of his ministry. He has denied these accusations, saying that they are slander, persecutions, denying that those things ever happened, and even passing some evidence off as being part of his counseling session and his methods being different from other people (I was personally shown a naked picture of him with his penis out that he sent to one his students, which I confronted him about later on and he explained away as part of his, “counseling session” and denied further accusations of which I was informed by this student).
Apart from denial, he excuses this behavior through his teachings. They are most apparent in his Garden Series but are elaborated and spoken of throughout his classes/teachings. I’ll write a few points he makes…
– Egoic Attachment – The idea of egoic attachment says that it is the ego (false self, perceived self, “the I apart from the Am”, the self that was crucified with Christ) that is attached to things, people, etc; and this egoic attachment is seen in marriages. He says that the reason man doesn’t share woman and vice versa is due to this egoic attachment. He justifies this in many ways, such as by saying that “love is not jealous”, “there is no longer male nor female in Christ…”, etc. He has whole teachings on this subject, which hold some truth to them, but nevertheless are thwarted to justify immoral behavior.
– He uses the passage where Jesus says that we are no longer given in marriage in the kingdom of God. He elaborates by saying that marriage is a man-made tradition, a type and a shadow of Christ and the church (of which there is no doubt that it is, yet Hebrew 13:4 says to honor the marriage bed…), and goes onto say that Jesus was the fulfillment of the purpose of marriage. This is then used against marriage today (though not said outright).
– He says that Adam and Eve had to have had sex with not only one another but their children in order to populate the Earth.
– He used the idea of an “expression of love” being open to the person expressing love, and alluded to the idea of love being expressed in a sexual way outside of marriage.
– He uses the idea of “the moment” to deny any remembrance of these events, and says he, “doesn’t live in the past”.
Those are a few examples. There are several problems that myself and others have seen with these teachings. First off, there are a wide array of scriptures warning against immorality and adultery. To name a few, Galatians 5:19-21, 2 Timothy 3, 1 Corinthians 5, Hebrews 13:4, 2 Peter 2, Revelation 2:12-29. A couple of people that have talked to Silas and confronted him about some of these things feel like he has twisted certain teachings and spiritual truths in such a way that they support his own vices. It is known by these people that he has had issues with lust in the past that he has never really fully dealt with.
These teachings can also have destructive consequences on the people that have embraced them. I can testify of this from experience. When my wife (at the time) and I were introduced to these ideas, we were quick to reject the ideas presented to us by Silas but were conflicted because of the position of authority (as a teacher) we had placed him in in our hearts. Though initially rejected, we tolerated the teachings, which in turn allowed these “seeds” to sprout into destructive ideas which no doubt had a major role to play in our break up… I am not the only one that has been affected though. I have spoken to several ex-students that have also embraced these teachings at some point (whether to a small or larger extent) that have seen consequences in their personal lives and their relationships as a result. Another problem is that though this type of behavior is said to be “an expression of love,” it denies intimacy between the people involved, perhaps the most vital aspect of love, especially in romantic relationships. Not only that, but it is evident that using such teachings to coerce your female students into having sexual acts with you is downright manipulation. It’s not love, it is taking advantage of people… There are many other things that are clear signs of a cult (arrogance, unteachable, a lofty view of self aka boastful pride of life, disconnected from other members in the body in any sort of intimate way, etc.), but I wanted to point out the main issues.
I am writing this to inform people of the teachings being put out by Silas Valentine. It grieves me that there are people that I know that are still involved with this ministry. I understand that he is seen with such high esteem by his students, but if you are reading this I want you to consider the things I am saying. My heart is that people be set free, free indeed, not using freedom to entangle yourself in further bondage. If we tolerate these acts of immorality, it won’t be long before it spreads… a little leaven leavens the whole lump of dough…
I want to end by encouraging people that have been affected by Ekstasis Ministries in such ways, whether big or small. If you have a story to share, please do. It doesn’t have to look like this… maybe it’s just by speaking about it to those around you, your family, the community you’re a part of, etc. You have a voice. Ultimately, your voice may not only help you, but others that have been affected as well.
Revelation 2:19-21 (The risen Christ speaking)
“‘I know your deeds, and your love and faith and service and perseverance, and that your deeds of late are greater than at first. 20 But I have this against you, that you tolerate the woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophetess, and she teaches and leads My bond-servants astray so that they commit acts of immorality and eat things sacrificed to idols. 21 I gave her time to repent, and she does not want to repent of her immorality…”